On 15 July 2015, the Irish Government passed the Gender Recognition Act.

Ireland is one of just four jurisdictions in the world where people may legally change gender through self-determination. 

The 2015 Gender Recognition Act provides an administrative process for transgender people over 18 to achieve full legal recognition of their preferred gender. The process is also open to people aged 16-18, though they have to go through the Circuit Court and get a doctor’s certificate and parental consent.

The historic move was a vital one for transgender people in this country.

It meant they could change their gender on birth certs, passports and driving licences by making a formal legal declaration, without the need for testimony from psychiatrists.

This followed the battle of Irish transgender woman Lydia Foy, who spent 20 years of her life involved in difficult and complex litigation to have her gender legally recognised in the Irish State, the Oireachtas passed the Gender Recognition Act in 2015.

Transgender Equality Network Ireland (TENI) does trojan work for the trans community in Ireland, including the provision of over 170 training sessions each year, educating almost 7,000 people on topics such as health and wellbeing, employment and education.

In 2018, they answered 2,512 calls from people in the Irish trans community looking for information, general support, family support and mental health resources among others. 

"And it’s still only a touch of it!" Chair of TENI Sarah R Phillips laughs. 

As the subject of transgenderism generally strikes intimidation into the hearts of those who wish not to offend, U Magazine spoke to Phillips, to break it down into easy-to-understand language. 

When it comes to using correct pronouns, Phillips maintains that it's simpler than you think. 

"First of all, we have to look at what trans means at a basic level. It’s about understanding our own identity and who we are. Most people will accept what [gender] has been given to them at birth, their biological assignment.

"But, when someone trans grows up and they have a core identity that's not in agreement with what's assigned at birth, pronouns become important. 

"Like everyone, trans people want to be recognised as what we see ourselves. If a trans person is female they expect to female pronouns to be used. Same as anyone."

Phillips went on to make the comparison of calling someone by the wrong name. 

"The basic idea of respect in society is at the core of names and pronouns. The whole thing is about respect, about who they are. You have allowed me to be myself, otherwise, you are disrespecting me."

Some would say that Ireland is holding its own as a world leader in trans inclusion. However, others would disagree, saying that a long way is still left to go. 

We asked Phillips about her own personal experience on the matter, to which she replied "it's contradictory.

"I think, personally, my own experience is that a lot of people have been very respectful. However, I know that is not the experience of many of my peers or the trans community in general.

"It's a hit-and-miss situation. Certain people are willing to give you the respect and behave respectfully, but others aren't. Even within our own families, trans people struggle to get that acceptance, struggle to be referred to by their own preferred name.

"There's definitely a long way to go in terms of education – in the world, not just Ireland. And I think there’s still a hugely long way to go for it to be something that is not constantly having to be talked about.

"From my perspective, I came on a journey and a lot of my family, friends and colleagues came [on that journey] with me they got used to it after a while. We as trans people need to allow that space and time [for them to make the effort]. 

What not to say 

In terms of what to avoid when speaking to a trans person, Phillips says it comes down to one word. 

"Again, I’d come back to one word always and that’s 'respect'. Same with everyone. 

"If someone comes to you and speaks to you as a person – why do you have to focus on the trans issue first? This is somebody who you've just met - treat them as such. Do not ask about being trans unless they’re open and willing to share that information with you.

"Don’t ask about surgery. Would I come up to you and ask you about your medical history?

"People can be quite voyeuristic about the process people go through and unless they’re willing to share that information with you, don’t broach it. If they have identified as trans, maybe at some point ask the question to see what suits them."

For anyone who is still unsure, questions are okay to ask.

"If they have shared with you what they’re going through, then yes it's okay to ask," Phillips says.

"Allow that trans person to guide the conversation in terms of pronouns. Follow the same protocols that anyone might meet – it's a very simple process."

Trans rights activist and fellow TENI board member Aoife Martin (@aoifemrtn) agrees. 

"The big thing to avoid is surgery I'd say," she said. 

"To me, that’s the big one – another one I'd be careful of are people's personal family affairs. Not everyone's family is accepting of their situation and that has to be considered."

In January 2017, Aoife became the first person to transition globally within her workplace.

Since then she has given numerous talks and interviews about being transgender in Ireland today. She also took Irish Blood Transfusion Service to task over their refusal to change her details on their database and to allow her to donate blood. 

When it comes to pronouns, Aoife – a champion of the cause – believes it's best not to overthink it. 

"Around pronouns, people might get a big caught up with these things. If you’re not sure, just ask – it shows that you’ve actually thought about this and want to proceed with respect. 

"As well as that, get educated. I'm quite open and I don't mind people asking me questions, but people can also just Google and do research."

Martin, who self-admittedly "essentially came out online", found that the internet can be a wonderful place, but one should "be wary".

"I've had a very positive and accepting online experience – but with being online, you have to be quite careful. A lot of my friends in the UK have been through awful times. See, we have self-identification over there, which they’re trying to get into the UK.

"I remember once, one person tweeted a picture of me with the word ‘man’ written across it. Media in Ireland has been pretty okay or they've either just ignored us, which is also good! What more can you ask?"

teni.ie and belongto.org have details of regular peer support for trans people around the country, and of family support groups in Dublin, Waterford and Limerick.

Explainer of terms associated with the trans community:

Cisgender – A term for people whose gender identity matches the sex that they were assigned at birth. The opposite of the term ‘transgender’.

Transgender – A person who has a gender identity or gender expression that differs from their assigned sex.

Pansexual – Someone who has the ability to fall in love/being attracted to someone regardless of their gender.

Non-binary – Genderqueer, also known as non-binary, is a catch-all category for gender identities that are not exclusively masculine or feminine‍. A non-binary person may express a combination of masculinity and femininity, or neither, in their gender expression.

TERF – An acronym for the phrase “trans-exclusionary radical feminist”. In essence, someone who is campaigning for feminist ideals whilst excluding transgender women.